Chinese Bride

Chinese Brides — Meet Chinese Mail Order Brides

by | Oct 9, 2024

With our platform, you can easily find a real Chinese wife. Seriously, it’s easier than you think: you just click on a profile, then 2 more clicks, and it’s done. 

But first, you just need to read this guide. We’ll tell you all you wanted to know about Chinese wives—from the most common stereotypes to how much it actually costs to get a bride and bring her to your country.

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What are Chinese women like?

Some people charmed by Chinese women can say they’re perfect, but it’s not fair to say so. You just can’t say “they’re perfect” about 660 million women, it would be an incredibly large generalization.

However, there’s still something you need to know about them.

  • They are realistic. Of course, these women are pretty romantic and all that, but they are also pretty down to earth and pragmatic. They expect a man to be a provider and to be able to protect the family because they still have those traditional Confucianism family values. 
  • They are not too emotional. However, it’s not that they’re naturally cold or reserved, no—it’s just another example of how their society works because in China, people are not encouraged to show their emotions and to be loud/too passionate.
  • They make perfect partners. Another important thing to know about Confucianism is that it says that family members must support each other—it’s about providing support for elderly family members, children, and of course, for a spouse.
  • They might be considered rude by some people. However, calling it “straightforward” would probably be more correct. Some might call their behavior “disregarding the feelings of other people” but we believe it’s just “saying what they think and not hiding their feelings”. They often are brutally honest, yes, and you’ll have to deal with it because it’s another “core value” of many Chinese people.
  • They are pretty traditional regarding dating. Premarital sex, for example, is still not that common in China, and casual dating is almost non-existent there—they have that “date-to-marry” mentality so if you are not sure whether you’re ready for a serious relationship or not, Chinese women will probably not appreciate it.

See, there are both positive and negative traits—they are realistic and very supportive, direct and traditional, but on the other hand, they might be considered rude, reserved, and overly pragmatic. You need to weigh up all the pros and cons carefully before you start dating them.

How to impress women from this country?

Remember what we said about generalizations? Well here we go again. Every woman is unique and special, so the best dating tips would probably sound like “be yourself”, “be confident”, “show respect”, “look your best”—nothing specific, just generic things that work for all. 

But still, it feels like we can provide some useful information to those who are wondering how to impress girls from this country. Here it is.

  • Show that you’re serious about your relationship, that you want to build a family with her, and that you can provide for the family. It’s not that they are money-oriented, they just want to feel safe after marriage. 
  • Do not give your Chinese bride any reasons for jealousy. They are too jealous sometimes, mostly because their men are not that loyal and jealousy is one of the tools they use to control their loyalty. You’ll deal with her jealousy eventually, it’s not that hard—and not giving cause for jealousy is one of the most important steps in this process.
  • Don’t be too emotional and too loud (if that’s not your personality specialty, of course). Try to be more humble and calm—expressing your feelings too soon and too much will look weird for Chinese ladies.

Having these basic tips, we can assure you that you are equipped with all the basics for meetings! If you feel so as well, check out the next part; we’ll tell you everything about online and real Chinese dating.

Where & how to meet Chinese brides?

You have three main options here: online dating, offline dating, and marriage agencies. Let’s talk about each of them.

Online

There are many international dating sites, and a lot of them are focused on Asia and China in particular, because it’s a very popular mail bride country among Western men. These websites are pretty much like “standard” American dating sites, but there are some differences—these platforms are paid, they have verified profiles, and they have more communication tools. 

Offline

You go there, approach local women in the biggest cities, and start building a relationship with the girls you like. But even though the first and the second steps are quite simple, the last one isn’t—you’ll need to find a fluent English speaker in a country with an English Proficiency level close to the one in Syria and Madagascar. And it’s not only about finding someone who speaks English because to make this whole scheme work, that someone must also be single and open for a new relationship! 

Chinese brides agency

Here’s how these agencies work. First, you create a profile online or offline, and then their matching specialists (or their matching algorithms) do their job. Second, you choose the girls you like most, they accept your messages in a good scenario, and you arrange dates. Third, you meet them in person.

Such agencies typically provide all the necessary services—translation services, city guide services, coordination, etc. They’ll even rent you an apartment in advance!

It’s better to meet Chinese brides online, as you see. Chinese dating apps are the most affordable and the most comfortable option available so missing such an opportunity wouldn’t be wise.

How much does it cost to get a Chinese mail order bride?

First of all, when we talk about any costs, we also must highlight that you can’t buy a Chinese wife. The process doesn’t include any “buying” of a real person.

What does it actually include?

  • Online dating, chatting (at least 2 months)
  • Meeting in person (at least twice)
  • Marriage
  • Visa fees

There is some non-zero chance that your bride and her family will help you and split the bill on one of those steps, but let’s see how much you’ll pay if you only rely on your own budget.

So, first, how much does a Chinese dating site cost? 

SakuraDate, for example (and dozens of other top dating platforms), has a credit-based system, so it depends on how much time you’re going to spend there. Usually, men spend around 600 minutes chatting on a dating site (20 minutes per day). 

  • 1 minute of chat costs 2 credits on SakuraDate
  • 1 credit costs $0.2 if you buy the largest package
  • 2 credits = $0.4
  • 600 minutes cost 1,200 credits
  • 1,200 credits cost $240

After chatting online, you’ll need to meet your bride in China, pay for the wedding, and pay for the K-1 visa. 

  • A 1-week trip to this country would cost you at least $2,500 
  • The average wedding cost in China is between $7,000 and $13,800, the average cost of a wedding in the US is higher but most Americans spend less than $10,000 on a wedding party
  • A K-1 visa costs $2,500 ($1,500 for the green card, $1,100 for the visa)
    • Total — around $12,000 

    This doesn’t mean you need to pay $12,000 right away, of course. There are dozens of ways to save money and what’s more, it’s not a one-time payment. For example, you pay $1,100 for the visa after the application and the second part ($1,500) will be required only after the visa approval (12-18 months).

    Total

    What makes Chinese girls look for husbands abroad?

    • They want to find loyal husbands. Adultery is pretty common among Chinese men, and lots of women from this country believe that Western men are much more faithful in a relationship.
    • They want to be treated as equals. Unfortunately, that’s something they still can’t get in China where men often think that a woman should be focused on domestic duties and should not have a say in family decisions. 
    • They think Western men treat their women better. This is not too far from the truth, actually—in the West, men typically treat women with more respect than in China. 
    • They are “too old” by Chinese standards. There is a term that can be translated as “leftover women”—that’s what the Chinese call unmarried women who are older than 30 years old (and it’s almost impossible for women in their 30s to find a husband).

    Common myths about Chinese brides

    Want to know if all those stereotypes and myths are true or not? Continue reading and find out!

    “They are very loud in public, when with close people”

    No, they are not! Some Chinese tourists might be too loud in Europe or in the US, but we don’t judge the whole nation by a few loud tourists, right? Chinese ladies are very polite and calm, and being too expressive or loud is just not a part of their culture.

    “They are gold-diggers”

    They are realistic, as we’ve said. China doesn’t have the best safety net in the world, if you don’t work and don’t succeed, you will starve and your wife and children will starve, too. Women are well aware of this situation—that’s how their grandmothers and mothers lived and even if the situation improves, it improves very slowly. So, where there’s no social safety, there’s no social mobility—as a result, Chinese women want to find a man who will be able to provide for the family in order to feel safe. 

    “They are too obedient”

    Not true again. Women from some Southeast Asian countries might be called “obedient” or “shy”, but Chinese ladies are different. They’re independent and strong, and sometimes, they may even be stubborn, especially if you have an argument! 

    “They are racist”

    This stereotype was probably true a few decades ago when China only started its development and was closed, and meeting a foreigner on the street was something extremely rare. Today, it’s only partly true. Yes, some parents will never accept a foreign man for a husband, and some people in this country are still too excited when they see a black person, but that’s very rare nowadays.

    Stereotypes are not always true, as you see. China is a beautiful country full of amazing women, and those myths about them being “racist” or “too loud” remain in the past.

    Do you have more questions?

    Women from this country make perfect wives—especially if your perfect wife should support you, treat you with respect, and be 100% loyal to you. Today, getting a Chinese mail order bride is simple—you literally need just a few clicks and 1 or 2 minutes of your time. But if you still have questions or doubts, just read our FAQ section!

    FAQ

    1. Are Chinese mail order brides solely motivated by financial reasons?

    No. Most Chinese brides want to find a man who would have a stable job, but it’s not like they’re searching for the top 1% earners, of course. Financial reasons are important, but not more important than, say, love and romance.

    2. Can mail order bride relationships with Chinese women be successful?

    Yes. In fact, marriages between American husbands and Chinese wives are even more successful than marriages between Americans. By the way, Asian Americans show the lowest divorce rates of all other races, so your chances of building a successful relationship with a Chinese lady are pretty high.

    3. How do language barriers impact mail order bride relationship with Chinese women?

    Most Chinese mail order brides speak English well. They are not fluent speakers, of course, and they have that cute accent, but this is not a problem at all. Give your bride a year in the US and she’ll speak English like it’s her native language!

    Charlie Belanger
    Education: Master’s in Media, Culture, and Communication, Steinhardt School of Culture, Education, and Human Development
    Experience: Journalist (2012-2016), Public relations assistant (2016-2018), Communication specialist (2018-present)

    Charlie is the lead author and head of our content team. He’s an experienced professional who has been working with different media companies for 12 years—first as a journalist, and now, as a lead communication specialist. Charlie is also very experienced at international dating: he spent 2 years finding a foreign partner, and in 2017, he finally found Dalisay, a Filipino mail order bride—they’re married and happy, and they raise two beautiful daughters. Charlie is a very experienced professional in online dating, and especially in international online dating: he knows a lot about the industry, about how these sites work, and about how one should use them to succeed.
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